MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best
Friend by Rachel Bertsche
This book had me at hello so to speak. I read the title and I couldn’t resist
picking up the book. The theme of this
book is finding a gal pal, that person or persons you can call up and just talk
on the phone with or make plans to do a girls night etc. Most importantly it is someone who you trust,
someone who you share a piece of yourself with. They are your people like
Meredith and Christina in Grey’s Anatomy. The author takes you on her year long
journey to find a new BFF. Actually she
is looking for several. Why is she doing
this? She lived in New York and had two
best friends who she had known practically forever but while in college she met
a guy. After college he ended up living
in Chicago and she decided to move in with him. She ended up marrying him and
lleaving her gal pals in the big NY.
While she loved her husband she felt she was missing something, a best
girlfriend(s).
As she finds out and many of you out there already
know, it is not easy to find friends who you connect with once you leave high school and college. In today’s world it
can be even harder because women are juggling so many things at one time,
relationship, motherhood, often jobs leaving little time for you. It’s not like
you can walk into a bar, go up to the bartender and say I am looking for a new
BFF do you know anyone who would fit the bill?
The author discusses her strategy for identifying
candidates who might be new gal pal material including advertising for MWF
Seeking BFF. She goes on a yearlong quest to find new good friends. She shares her “girl dates” with the
reader. In addition, she shares her
research about how friends can have an effect your self-esteem, coping
mechanisms and morale. She also
discusses the statistics on types and number of friends a person tends to have
and she categorizes them into three categories.
For example, you might typically have 100 or more acquaintances. These are people that you know through
organizations, maybe work that you chat with if you see them in the grocery
store or around town. That is the extent of the contact. You really don’t interact with them
socially. So I shared one category but I
will let you read the book to get the skinny on the other two.
While I sometimes found the author to be a little
whiney and needy, overall I really enjoyed the book and all the research she
did on friendship and its importance. I consider myself extremely fortunate for
all the friends in my life. Life would
be so dull without you all.
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